I’m a bit surprised at men’s openness to interracial dating.While I’ve personally dated women across the racial spectrum, I’ve only had a handful of clients who ever expressed preferences for women of other races.By promoting the "creepy [white] man with Asian fetish" stereotype in public discourse, we Asian women are shooting ourselves in the foot.We subtly reinforce that the predominant narrative of interracial dating between non-Asian men and Asian women is one of patriarchal, racist power structures, when we know that is not always the case.Ok Cupid also found that Asian men got some of the worst ratings from women. It's because a many non-Asian women see Asian men as anything but hot dates.
Although some studies show that Asian students excel in math and science, clearly not all Asians ace both subjects.
Ironic as it is, I've met guys who have come to me and said, "I like this girl a lot, but I don't want people to judge me because she's Asian." "I know this great bibimbap place in K-Town, but will she think I'm racist because she's Japanese?
" "I taught English in Cambodia out of college because it was a good opportunity; now everyone assumes I'm a sexpat." That's not to say creepers don't exist.
“The researchers realize that their results can be depressing, but they also agree with the many readers who caution against reading too much into the preferences of online daters and speed daters. I married a black man, who I am now (17 years later) divorcing, but the point is that I think the world is FULL of potential, why limit yourself?
Yes, these daters clearly discriminate by race and height and looks and other superficial qualities, but they also temper these biases once they get to know one another.” People who are terribly picky in choosing partners online will relax their standards if they spend just three or four minutes talking to someone at a speed dating session.